20 Songs or Less

One of the things that has helped me dramatically in recovery from my eating disorder is music. It's a powerful tool. Over the past couple years I've been heavily involved in a mentorship project that I created called CAKE, Creative Arts for Kids Expression. One of the tools we use that is very helpful in understanding and discovering who we are is called, 20 Songs or Less.

The idea is to choose [no more than] 20 songs that define who you are, or where you've been. Whatever story you want to tell about yourself and your life. It's harder than you think to break it down to just 20. And you'll find it will keep changing as life moves round the circles.

Here's my 20. These songs represent the many moods and stages of my eating disorder and also, life.  The list is below and below that are the MP3s courtesy of Amazon :-)

I encourage you to create yours and share your list with us. Keep in mind, this isn't a "my favorite songs list". This is a "who the hell am I" list. Do it. It will help more than you can imagine.

Sarah's 20 Songs or Less

The Story - Brandi Carlile
I Am a Rock - Simon & Garfunkel
Crazy - Gnarls Barkley
Wake Up - Arcade Fire
So Lonely - The Police
Dance the Night Away - Van Halen
It's So Hard - Big Pun featuring Donnell Jones
Clumsy - Fergie
In the Waiting Line - Zero 7
Troublemaker - Weezer
Skin and Bones - Foo Fighters
I Feel Like Dying - DJ Drobitussin featuring Lil Wayne
Sloop John B. - The Beach Boys
Save Me - Aimee Mann
If I Were a Boy - Beyonce
You Learn - Alanis Morissette
Secret Garden - Bruce Springsteen
Must of Got Lost - The J. Geils Band
Don't Stop Me Now - Queen
Blackbird - Sarah McLachlan


  1. Sarah Lou5:30 PM

    This IS harder than it looks an struggling to get this down to just 20 songs! I'm working on it though! Xxx

  2. definitely! very hard. you have no idea how long it took me and I've redone it so many times. It's a living will keep evolving.

  3. Sarah Lou3:37 AM

    Ok so here is my current list, I urge people to give this a go it is harder than it looks but really makes you reflect.

    Sarah Lou xxx

    1) Man-eater - Nelly Furtado
    2) 45 Seconds of Ecstasy - Meatloaf
    3) Feel - Robbie Williams
    4) Our House - Madness
    5) Beautiful - Christina Aguilera
    6) Rockstar - Nickleback
    7) On Top of the World - Carpenters
    8) Old Red Eyes is Back - Beautiful South
    9) Yellow - Coldplay
    10) The First Cut is the Deepest - Rod Stewart
    11) The Drugs Don't Work - The Verve
    12) Champagne Supernova - Oasis
    13) Stupid Girls - Pink
    14) Mad World - Gary Jules
    15) Help - The Beatles
    16) Don't Stop Believing - Journey
    17) Shine - Take That
    18) Be Somebody - Kings of Leon
    19) I'm Like a Bird - Nelly Furtado
    20) I Can't Read You - Daniel Bedingfield


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